How about giving yourself a gift and a bit of love by take some time just for yourself while you’re going through your breakup or divorce? Is it what you do to when read this article about how to heal a broken heart and be happy.
Your life may be crazy and you may feel like you just can’t cope. It may seem that you never get it all done. You find yourself becoming impatient with people. You may have no time for yourself or too much time after your breakup.
If this describes you, it’s time to revitalize and rejuvenate yourself, spending some time investing in you.
Let’s use a example
Susie found how to heal a broken heart after the breakup of her first marriage (and be kinder and more loving to the people in her life) was to develop a regular meditation practice–a time when she could get in touch with “her” and revitalize.
We know that you might be thinking “I don’t have time for that” or “Meditation is just too weird for me” but we invite you to read on for some really practical tips on how to get started to feeling better and being more loving to yourself and to others.
Many people know the benefits to having a regular time for meditate each day but simply don’t do it.
Some big beliefs that keep people from meditating are:
- Don’t have the time or the privacy
- Can’t still my mind when I do sit down to do it
- Don’t know how
- Can’t sit still
- Don’t feel the benefits when I do it
And there are many more beliefs that keep people from meditating.So what would be a stronger reason to meditate than to not do it?
It’s pretty simple for Susie. It just makes her feel better (even coping with a broken heart)–physically, mentally and emotionally–and because she feels more “centered,” she’s kinder to the people in her life–and she just feels better.
Tips of how to heal a broken heart with meditation
Reserve a hour for medit
Choose a time during the day when you feel a drop in your energy level and a time that works with your schedule–or a time when you feel really sad. Susie usually starts feeling a drop in energy around 4:30pm each day so that is a perfect time for her to do a meditating “pick-me-up.” Other people find that the first thing in the morning or right before they go to bed works for them.
Star slowly
If you aren’t used to meditating, start small. Start by taking 15 minutes and calling it your investment time in
yourself. Find a quiet place (if you can’t find one, create one) and tell everyone that you don’t want to be disturbed during this time. Use an ordinary kitchen timer to monitor your time for you.
Remember how the flight attendants tell you in case of emergency to put your oxygen mask on first before helping others with theirs? If you take some time each day to renew you, you will be better with others, especially your kids. Take our word for it–we’ve seen it in action many, many times.
Develope a pratice
Meditation doesn’t have to be sitting in one spot, in a lotus position and not moving. You can develop a moving meditation practice as long as you are allowing your mind to clear from your thoughts and worries. Otto goes out to a spot in nature that he loves and either walks or sits there. To an observer, what he’s doing may not look like meditation but he always comes back renewed. So experiment and find a way that works for you. Susie usually sits for her meditation time but in a chair with both feet on the floor or sometimes even in bed.
Have patience
Don’t expect to be perfect at clearing the thoughts from your mind–especially after a breakup or divorce. As the Buddhist nun Pema Chodron has said in her books and audios, she’s been meditating for over 30 years and even she has trouble clearing her mind of thoughts for more than a few seconds at times. So forget perfection and just go for allowing the thoughts, beliefs and ideas that you are holding in your body to relax their grip on you.
After a few minutes of just sitting, breathing and moving her attention into the center of her body, Susie feels her body relaxing. She’s always surprised to observe that she had been holding tension that she hadn’t been aware of.
If you do not try, don’t will get
So if you’ve never tried meditation (or maybe you have many times) and the word might even conjure up negativity in your mind, shift it to your time of renewal and the time that you are investing in you, to help you become a better person.